The art of wooing a guy for keeps I’m told is to be learnt! While wit, intelligence and beauty, not necessarily in that particular order, may help you win a guy you may lose him if you don’t know the art of .... drum roll please... CLINGING. Yes, that’s the one thing that a lot of logical no-nonsense men want from their woman I’m told.

So, herein is the problem for some women like moi who have had years of protective mechanism in place from showing our weaker side as we perceive it to be. Before you know it – lo behold - you have forgotten how to express it without looking raw and scared! Yikes!!!

If it is your intelligence that won a man he likes the cat and mouse play of one-upmanship - the dance if you may call it -Playing-hard-to-get is fine in this context for quite a long time – till u hit the plateaus that every relationship when it takes the turn for the worse or the stable or the comfortable.

Now if it is your beauty methinks the plateaus come quicker if not matched with wit and intelligence. So, like most women the men too feel the need to be wanted, needed and made to feel adored and all that.

That’s when the art of clinginess has to be brought forth at the right time as the plateaus begin. Believe you me it is an art and not every one can do it to the best of its abilities. But several clever women know the right words to say at the right time and before you know it the male is happy he is king - his woman needs him and there is an upswing in the relationship again.

I’m polishing up this act these days – a bit of self-psychoanalysis with the help of two or three wise relationship experts I’ve been diagnosed - I don’t have a clingy side or at least I don’t show it. This by any standards is the best diagnosis I got ever and I agree. So here I am practicing my pout, and saying all those feminine things good clingy women do to turn the plateaus into upswings you'll never know when it comes with the next guy I meet – my problem area people! Fingers crossed for the new and improved clingy me!!!